I have just read a book entitled ‘Your Defiant Teen’* and wanted to share it with you. It was recommended to me by a parent who said it was helpful. This book lays out a program to assist with changing parent behavior. I know many parents have tried so many things and are just tired and frustrated and now I just said for parents to change their behavior. However, this book is very gentle in how and what needs to change and offers the possibility of significantly positive results. Your changes will assist with redirecting and changing your teen’s reaction to you and subsequently, their behavior improves. This is not a quick fix program and has clearly defined steps to implement over several months. A therapist’s help is recommended depending on the severity of the situation, however, the book makes clear the criteria for if and when outside intervention may be needed. Also, these same authors offer another book, ‘Your Defiant Child’, that I have not read… yet. It is important to redirect defiant behavior as early as possible and these books should offer some help and guidance. For therapists and clinicians, there is a companion volume to The Defiant Teen which includes program forms and assessment tools.
I should note, I was not paid to endorse or promote this book. It just seems to offer a reasonable plan and may help yours or other families.
*Your Defiant Teen, Second Edition: 10 Steps to Resolve Conflict and Rebuild Your Relationship by Russell A. Barkley (Author), Arthur L. Robin (Author), Christine M. Benton (Contributor).